Relationships are so delicate and can break on minor issues and
simple misunderstandings. Once broken, it is a die-hard task to mend the
relationship and get back the same intensity of affection in the
relationship. There can be visible reasons, may be a misunderstanding or
communication gap, at times it can be a mistake of someone else;
fragile relationships can break over any simple cause. The cause for the
easy breaks in relationships is that relationships are mind products,
subjective to each person.
Many relationships are not the union of best possible matches but
best available pairs, or when people misconceive the partner so.
Relationships start blindly by peripheral understandings and attraction;
it proceeds through adjustments, forgiveness and understanding; and
breakup over misunderstandings, mistakes or lack of tolerance. Getting
back into the relationship, though difficult, is possible if approached
the issues with the right understanding and mind to change and mend.
Understand the Reasons Behind Breakup
To resolve any issue, understanding the reasons is important. Without
knowing the root cause, relationship issues cannot be repaired. It can
be a past reason which is now absent or a still persisting reason.
Analyze each stages of the relationship and find out at which point what
has gone wrong. Once the reasons of the break up are realized, the
solution may be easy. Figuring out the element that lead to the breakup
helps the partners to change it and get back into the relationship.
Experts say that the process of figuring out the reasons of breakup can
be much effective if made mutual.
Forgiving is Magical
Once the issues are dug out, the next step is to forgive the mistakes
of both the partners. If you still hold on to the mistake committed by
the partner, then it may cause another breakup in the future. Understand
why the partner committed such a mistake and forgive him/her forever if
you wish to take the relationship a long way further. Your forgiveness
may initiate a new life and new relationship between you two. If the
mistake is found to have committed by you, then be ready to change
entirely to not to repeat the action and let your partner to go away
forever, leaving no chance of a reunion.
Renew the Commitment
Once you are back in track, renew the commitment and let your partner
know the new resolutions and decisions. Once you commit to be good to
your partner and also to avoid mistakes, then adhere to the commitments.
Many partners get into commitments and they forget them easily.
Consistency of commitments is very much required to keep the warmth of
relationships ever remaining. It is rightly said that you can never
change the past; but possibly the future. Realize the past mistakes and
commit to not repeat them in the future.
Change Yourself
You may not be able to change the partner as you desire; but you can
very well change yourself. Changing yourself is the better way of
resolving the issues and renewing the problems. The changes may make you
appear more appealing and accepted by the partner. You can also try to
implement certain changes in the partner but if the person is willing,
then the only way is to change yourself to comply with the partner.
Changing oneself doesn't mean being submissive to the partner, but
following a better way to be in a more satisfying relationship.
Communication is the Keystone
Most of the issues in relationships can be resolved with right
communication with the partner. It is commonly observed that slight
misunderstanding or ignorable mistakes are many a times the cause for
several breakups. Approach the issues in a relationship, positively and
try to make each partners understand the real situation. Communication
means conveying the facts and truth and also offering support, help and
forgiveness each other. Talk with a mind of acceptance. Do not try to
defend or resist the arguments of the partner and accuse each other for
all the mistakes. Let the communication be creative, rather critical.
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